Come on guys, get your act together.
RED Pollution heads! Single bolt in the middle and a "U" shaped EGR port, Blue heads have two bolts in the middle and square shaped EGR port.
The comment about one of the three bolts hols perhaps letting the EGR leak is valid, BUT, it looks as though that hole isn't drilled, only the centre hole, so shouldn't be a problem.
I'd be looking more closely at the way the manifold fits the heads, you will have to sit the manifold on and try to measure the gap that the gasket normally fills, needs to be checked in each corner, and top and bottom at each corner. The point of this is to try to confirm if the angle of the manifold faces correctly matches the angle of the intake faces of the heads. As the heads are not original, the manifold is not original, and the manifold has had work and will have been machined, there is a very good chance one or both items are incorrect and do not match. The net result is that there could be less compression of the gasket at the lower edge of the face of the manifold, causing the gasket to leak over time, leading to the described air leak and also the water in the oil...
Personally, even if I measured a "bit" of a discrepancy, I'd be tempted to simply use some fresh gaskets spray with something like Holomar, and use some sort of silicon gasket sealer around the water jackets of the manifold, both sides of the gasket, and ALWAYS sparingly so it doesn't get somewhere it shouldn't be.
If the manifold measures up poorly to the heads, getting it remachined would be an option. Even a new manifold should be checked for fit in the same manner in case the issue lies with the way the heads have been machined.
Is there a gap between the bottom of the manifold and block with the side gaskets sitting in place, and if so how much???